so i am talking to my friend david again. *reminder*david is my very right wing uptight republican, border line religious fanatic friend who thinks it is okay for him to cheat on his wife*. some friends are harder to let go of than others.
most of the time david and i agree to disagree but since this same topic has come up with others, i thought i would post it here and see how yall would answer.
david has been having marital problems pretty much since the day he got married. he's mentioned leaving his wife several times, the only thing stopping him is he's afraid he wouldn't get full custody of his daughter.
he says we should get married, that way he could tell the courts that he did have someone helping him raise his daughter in a 2 parent household. and i tell him this it wouldn't work, other than the fact that my criminal and stability records would hurt him more than being married to me would help, the fact is i love the squid and it is the squid i am going to marry.
david seems to think that because the squid and i believe you can be in love with more than one person at the same time, that it doesn't matter to whom you are married. i try to explain to him that he is going to have to get rid of the entire "love is sex, sex is love" mentality. that being in love with more than one person at the same time, doesn't mean that you love equally. and marriage isn't just about love, or sex, it's about support, friendship, and understanding.
so the question is, how do you make the distiction between the one you love and the one you mary?