I'm 33, bi-F, been in the bdsm Scene for 12 yrs, poly (also for 12 yrs) and into new age stuff, mostly pagan. I enjoy vanilla partners as well as scene ones. Mildly kinky is good, too :) I don't need partners to be into new age stuff, but tolerant of my interests is good. I'm currently single, was divorced in 99. I have a couple casual partners but nothing really serious at the moment. I have a domestic partner and good friend (male) that I share a home and all income/debts with - have for 5 yrs, but we both know it's not permanent for many reasons. I would like to expand my dating circle and see what sparks might occur. I go through phases of being reclusive and needing alone time to develop my inner self and then being very social and needing to have contact and activity.. the phases last 6 mos to a year. I just started with the outgoing/social phase again in June after about 6 mos. off.
I've been really busy and social this summer attending events like Leather Retreat, Free Spirit Gathering, Starwood Festival, bi-camp, and this weekend - Erotic Haven.
One thing I'm really picky about for new potential partners is no smokers.. I'm really allergic to it and really like kissing so that's an issue to kiss someone who tastes like smoke. Smokers don't seem to realize that it comes out their pores and even if they wash and brush teeth, it's still there.. Ewww.. I don't mean to offend anyone, that's just a personal choice not to date smokers. I also saw my father (who was a heavy smoker) die of lung cancer.. so seeing someone I care about smoking gets to me on an emotional level, too.
hrm.. what else.. well - this.. Of all my orientations, the one I'm most shy about is being bi. I'm very femme looking so no one expects me to be and so I always have to be the one to approach.. it's not easy doing that if you're shy about it. I'm most afraid of rejection from women..
Oh dear.. I just reread this and it reads like a personal ad. I'm sorry.. I'm just looking to get out and date more.. Oh fuck.. that made it worse, didn't it. :P~~~
I hope I didn't offend anyone by posting this.
I'm considering deleting it, but that would be a waste of the time I took to write it.. soooooo..... I'll just send it..